How to be single and happy

I’m guessing that you’re mostly here because you typed something into Google like “how to be single and happy”, or maybe “what can I do for fun without a partner” or even perhaps, “how to move on from my ex” - to which, no judgement here gal!! Believe me when I say, I’ve been in all of these scenarios at one point or another. 

Society tends to critisice, ostracise and stigmatise single women. Unfortunately, sometimes even people in our close circles do this. The amount of times I’ve heard “Don’t worry, a guy will come and sweep you off your feet soon!”, or “Don’t wait too long, or all the good ones will get taken!”, or the dreaded “Well, you’re not getting any younger - clocks ticking!”. 

We’re labeled as sad, depressed, lonely, unlovable women because society places so much worth on romantic relationships. 

But what about the relationship you have with yourself? With your friends? With your family? Coworkers? Pets? 

When you build your life up, and you create a fulsome life for yourself that doesn’t rely on a partner for your happiness, it means that you (and you alone!) are responsible for your own happiness, your worth, your life. Of course leaning on family/friends/partners for support is important, but the work that we do together will mean that no matter what - you have your own back. 

When we build a life where we have enhanced areas such as health, wellbeing, friendships, fun, self care, meaningful work, routine, creativity, spirituality or adventure (whatever is important to you!) then, with or without a partner, we see ourselves to get out of survival mode, and begin to thrive. 

And if you want a partner, that is so okay! When you start to work on yourself and start creating a fulfilling, wholesome life and giving yourself validation/attention internally, you will be able to date from a place of calm, instead of desperation. We don’t want to date people who are desperate, so why would they want to date us if we have that same energy?

As we work together to create a whole, joyful, passionate and empowered life for you, we will work together to push past limiting beliefs that have held you back, to create actions that will help you grow your self love, and to start listening to your intuition to cultivate self trust. These changes will create so much amazing energy. To change your personal reality, is to change your personality (Joe Dispensa) - this work will bring out the best in you. The energy created from these changes will foster such a positive, vibrant space for a partner to come through, to move on from your ex, or create the most vibrant single life of your dreams. 

Everyone deserves to love themselves. Everyone deserves to love their life. Everyone deserves to thrive.